H. U. M. A. N.

"Seek first to understand, than understood"

After all these years, studying Psychology in IIUM, I cannot help myself not to agree with this statement.

You need to understand first before making conclusion.

You need to understand first before throwing assumption.

You need to understand first before giving opinion.

But we as human, often forget to understand OTHERS. We always think about ourselves first.

When we do this, we often saying things that we THOUGHT that we know. But instead, it is only our ASSUMPTION and mere opinions.

Some might asked: "I have been living with A for so long. And until now, I could not understand A. I had tried so hard to understand, but I can't."

Well, here are some tips in order to understand people:

1. Must bare in mind that it will be tough because people CHANGE and they will not appear 100% of themselves.

2. Bare in mind also that we could NOT understand them fully.

3. Always keep trying and never ever give up.

4. Pray to ALLAH and ask for HIS help as we are always in need of HIS help.


If these steps won't help you, then maybe you could consult others for better suggestion.

Remember that, understand and love others are more important rather than condemning and making assumption through their actions.

Human CHANGE because of some reasons. + Don't ever compare others with yourself, because each of us are different and have our own uniqueness. Find others' uniqueness and you will see the beauty of ALLAH's creations ;)

All these are also my opinions. I wrote out of my understandings of human, through observation and experiences.

Only ALLAH knows what is the best. *winks*

Confusion

Feelings sometimes can be confused...

That is why, never ever ever, trust your feeling fully.

It can be trusted unless if it is followed by prayers and guidance from God.

If not, just let it go cause it will change SOONER or LATER.

Post FAREwell

Yesterday it was.

The so-called big day for me in IIUM. Hehehe...

For my readers, who are not from IIUM or ASSIIUM, it is an event which will be held especially for those who are going to graduate for the current semester. During the event, those people will have to present whatever they had gain and shared their experiences with the juniors. Btw, it is an annual event for ASSIIUM (Association of Singapore Students of IIUM), which mean it will be organised for every semester.

When I was in my early years in IIUM, the events which I will always waited for is Taaruf and Farewell. It is my FAVOURITE event! Because during taaruf, I get to know the new students! I like to meet new people in life. REaLLY! And as for farewell, I like to listen to the experiences' of my seniors. It was really interesting!!!

And after all these years, watching people leave IIUM, it was my turn now...

The event started with recitation of some verses of Al-Quran. A video presentation which was dedicated especially for us. Then, some performances and speeches from us. During my time, I took the opportunity to voice out some of my words of wisdom. Ahaks! mcm real je aku
And as FYI, I am really NOT a serious person. Therefore, I added some jokes in my speech. It is not that I am NOT serious at all. It is just within my personality. I do not want people to be sad just because it IS my farewell. I want them to be happy, eventhough I had gone.because sadness cannot change anything.

I would have to leave everything eventhough it is hard...

Because that's what LIFE is.

You MOVE ON.

You did NOT stop at one phase.

You might be pause for a moment.

But then you will have to continue.

Just like our life in this world.

All these are just temporary.

We will leave it ONE day.

Pre-FareWELL

My farewell event is tonight. And I'm nervous. don't know what to wear. and what to talk for the speech part. Ok, let skip that part.

I'm just in the mood of blogging as I can't sleep rite now. Haiz...

Ok, let me tell you something. I've heard what people have been talking behind my back about how I have changed and not really similar to my past.

Whatever it is, let me get this damn straight to you, who might be reading this:
I AM HAPPY FOR BEING ABLE TO BE MYSELF.

Some might wonder, what about the previous me?

Well, it is still me and NOW I am ME.

So please, please and please STOP worrying about me. I might make mistakes, might fall in love, get hurt, being lied, get stabbed or whatever. It is all about MY Life.

If YOU have something that you wanna say to me, say it in front of my face. I can handle it. Don't worry. the problem is that YOU are not able to say it straight to my face.

SO when someone doesn't have the courage to say it straight to your face, does that make them a coward?

My first answer will be YES. but then, when I think properly, NO. because probably there are things that better for you NOT to know, rather than knowing it and you couldn't do anything about it.

And if you DO really concern about my LIFE, just PRAY for me k. Make DUAA for me. I'm glad when you do that. I'll appreciate that!

Oh btw, if you thought that you could know everything about my life, my secrets etc. from my blog, then You are living in a dream land, babe. Coz I'm not like gonna blog EXACTLY everything here. (I wonder, if there is even anyone who do that?) *scratch head*

Childhood Friendship

"Friendship is like a line of glasses. Handle it with care. Once it broken, it can never be repair."

Pernah dengar tak kata2 ni? Alah...dolu2 masa zaman skola kita selalu tulis kata2 mcm ni kat autograph book. Ingat lagi tak?

Masa zaman primary skool dulu, kita kawan2 masa time skola je. Time dabes skola, kita dah tak contact sgt. Kalau main2 pun, dgn kawan2 yang tinggal dekat dengan rumah je. During that period, friendship is more to those who we play with. Aku teringat masa zaman primary skool dulu.

Aku skola madrasah. Kita solat zohor & asar di skola. Suatu hari, masa solat zohor (dat time primary 3), seorang kawan baik ku kata: "Fadiah, anti nak tengok semut putih banyak2 tak?"

Aku: "Semut putih? Ada ke?"

Dia: "Ada! Time solat nanti, kita diri kat belakang sekali. Nanti masa orang sujud, kita jangan sujud dulu k..."

Aku: "Ok...!"


Dan semasa orang2 sedang sujud...


Aku: "Anti, mana semut2 putih tu?"

Dia: "Tu..." (sambil tunjuk kat orang2 yang sedang bersujud)

Aku: "Waaaaaah...A'ah la... (terpaku)


Masa dulu, tak terpikir pun yang benda tu kelakar. Aku kagum lagi ada. Dan sekarang ni, bila ingat2 balik, buatkan aku tersenyum sendiri. Kawan baik aku tu memang unik. Cara dia pandang sesuatu berbeza sungguh dari orang2 lain. Dia suka dengan benda2 yang ganjil & pelik. Tak semua orang boleh terima dengan cara dia. Tapi dia tetap jadi dirinya. Aku kagum dengannya.

Dan sekarang ni, Alhamdulillah, kerana kami masih lagi berhubung. Walaupun tak serapat dulu, tali persahabatan tetap dikuatkan dengan berhubung sekali-sekala, bertanya kabar bila teringat.

New friends are fabulous and awesome
and
Old friends are always the best!

Nothing?

Dia datang...

Kita kawan...

Pastu dia pergi...

Tanpa kata2 terakhir...

Kenapa eh?

Imperfection

HoLa peePs!

And when ourselves are imperfect, why do we always want others to be perfect?

Coz that what we ARE.

Human always want everything to be perfect, pretty, good, awesome, marvellous etc....

BUT we always forget that we are not.

THEREFORE,

Always ask for things that SUITABLE with yourself,

not what you WANT them to be.

Ayah oh Ayah

This post is dedicated especially to all fathers in this world!

They are the one who would always be there for us, and we always forget about them.

They supported us without saying much, but through actions and hopes.

They care for us but did not show much...

They are our fathers...

The unsung heroes in our life...

Always hope, pray and care for us...

Without requests, without limits...

Sometimes it is difficult to understand what they want for us,

but if we open our heart,

see from their eyes,

we will know.


"Diah nak jadi anak yg baik pada kedua orang tua Diah..."

And I believe everyone would want that too.

Therefore, appreciate everyone before you lose them ;)

Far Away

It is better for you to stay away from me
rather than staying with me

and

Get Hurt.

Bye!

Percubaan Pertama

Bismillah....

Untuk entry kali ni, nak try type dalam bahasa Melayu pulak... tapi bukan fully Malay ar...bahasa rojak la...hehehe..

Ok, so here the story goes...kita buat some recap sikit k ;)

Friday: Hari yang BEST! Gi HS dalam pukul 11 sebab nak brunch. Sampai je, ramai adek2 yang dah ada kat situ. Diorang sibuk2 nak pre-reg, tgk schedule etc. Al-maklumlah, first year. Teringat masa aku first year dolu2. hehehe... Ok, pastu gi class kul 12, dengan harapan akan dapat balik semula mid-term. Tapi hampeh! Tak tahu nape. Lecturer tak cakap pun. Huhu. Cuma yg penting, ada presentation & pengumuman yang class pada Selasa pagi, akan ditukarkan pada Isnin Malam. OH NO!!!! Aku paling tak suka class malam. but what to do....REdha jer la...OK, Pas class, contact Nuya sebab nak practice drive. Then nuya kata, dia amek aku pas solat Jumaat. sO aku pegi la masjid dulu untuk bersolat Jumaat. Lepas solat, aku dapat main2 drive dgn Nuya, Sakinah & Loy. Best sangat2! Aku dah suka & tak takot lagi untuk drive. ALhamdulillah =) Practice sampai petang. Then malam tu, Bluefairy & MooN datang bilik aku. Kita buat sesi Kara-OK gila2. Hahaha...mmg best untuk nak menghilangkan stress.


Saturday: Turun HS dalam pukul 1045am dengan Sarah. Jumpa MOon & EDa. Bebual2 kejap. Then jumpa Bluefairy & Asier. Farhan pun sampai. BEbual2 jap, pastu diorang nak kuar. Tinggallah aku dgn Farhan je. Pastu, Farhan nak gi amek robe untuk kak Sarah, so tinggal lah aku sorang dgn barang2. hehe. Masa tgh duduk sorang, jumpa OpeL, Fasihah & Shitah. Ramai nye orang yang aku jumpa niari. Hepinyeeeee. Hehehe.

Dalam pukul 1230+, W datang sbb nak amek muvee dari aku. Mula2 tu, dia kata malas nak datang sbb hari tu hujan. Dia malas nak bangun. Abeh, lepas aku dah marah2 dia, dia datang jugak. sbb aku dah penat2 bawak laptop, abeh senang2 je nak cancel. Haiyo...ingat aku ni apa? Nak tak nak, dia kena la turun jugak walaupun lambat. Hehehe. Nasib baik aku lama jugak kat HS.

Bila dia dah sampai, semangat nak tunjuk aku video2 bola yang dia save. Aku pun layan je. Memang best ar. Skill diorg SUPERB! Kalah pemain2 yg professional ;) Kita duduk lama jugak. Lepas zohor tu, aku jumpa Megat & Shady. W pun ada jugak. Tapi kita bebual tanpa menghiraukan dia yang duduk disebelah aku...Hahaha. cian dia But, who cares? Dia pun tak kisah...hehehe. Tapi bila dia dah boring, dia pun decide untuk membawa dirinya keluar. Hehe. Aku teruskan perbualan aku dgn shady & Megat. Best Lah!! Dah lama tak jumpa, so macam2 cerita keluar. hehehe. Dalam pukul 3 gitu, aku alek. Megat hantar sampai Mahallah. weeee~

Lepas asar, keluar Lagi =D. Berangkat dari UIA dgn Hyni, Nuya & Zimah. Jumpa Bluefairy & ASier. Pegi Times Square. Masa OTW tu, Dyat sms. Aku ajak dia join kita. Then dia pun kata Ok. Kita gi makan kat Secret REcipe. Then half way tu, Dyat sampai. Dia blanja kita!!! Wuhooooo~
Hepi tak terkata. Kalau tahu dia nak belanja, aku order yang mahal2 sey Hehehe.
Lepas makan tu, gi solat & main bowling. AKu tak main sbb Bowling is not my thing, so jadi observer je la. Aku dapat beli satu baju. heeeee~ Overall of the outing, BEST!

Sunday: Pagi2 lagi dah keluar untuk nak support budak2 main netball. Game habis dalam pukul 12 lebih. Kita pegi lunch kat HS. Then balek, tido jap. Dlm pukul 3+ gitu, Light datang bilik. Share2 story & tgk VMA. Kekek sey ketawa. Mepek betol. Dia stay sampai maghrib. Then, lepas tu, aku sambung tgk muvee. muvee marathon habis ar. Nak habiskan muvee2 dalam lappy ni, jadi boleh delete. heeee~


OK, enough of the recap.

Lately ni kan, aku rasa aku ada potensi untuk jadi Ahli Pemikir Negara la. hehehe. Selalu memikirkan benda2 yang tak penting (ada jugaklah yg penting). Kadang2 tak nak fikir, tapi tak dapat nak elak. So, aku nak try control la.


Owh one more thing, I think my feelings towards someone have changed. I DO realize that he is my bestfriend, but I can't help falling for him. However, from days to days, this feeling keep fading and I soon realized that I am coming back to like him as my bestfriend! Weeee~ I am happy with these feelings transition of mine ;) I will not have to think on ways of how to express my true feelings for him. YeaY! And indeed, feelings are not permanently static. It can be change through time and experience. However, the TRUE original feelings will always remain the same. Just like this feeling of mine. A bestfriend will always remain a BESTFRIEND x)

AlaMaaaaaaaaaaaK...mana Melayu aku? Haiz....